Words matter when talking about mental health
Having regular conversations about mental health can reduce the stigma and promote an environment of understanding. The words you use matter and is it important to be mindful of how we approach conversations about mental health.
Use language that is honest but appropriate for your child’s age and development. Being matter-of-fact and neutral when discussing mental health can help reduce stigma or feelings of fear related to sharing. Using language that promotes understanding of mental health can help a child or teenager feel more comfortable, more willing to talk, and more willing to reach out for support early.
A helpful strategy when talking about mental health is using person-first language. A person is not their mental health condition in the same way a person is not their medical condition. For example, you would not say someone “is cancer” so we would not want to say someone “is bipolar.” Consider using phrases such as “my daughter has bipolar disorder” or a “person with a mental health condition.” Using phrases that empower and provide hope can help children and teenagers feel supported.
| Example | Preferred language |
|---|---|
| Mental illness | Mental health condition |
| He is bipolar. | He has bipolar disorder. |
| Suffers from or afflicted with | Lives with |
| Mentally ill | Experiences a mental health condition |
| Trauma victim | Trauma survivor |
Words are especially important when discussing suicide. For example, saying “committed suicide” implies that suicide is a crime. By using words that are clear and neutral, you can help people feel supported and empowered to ask for help.
| Example | Preferred language |
|---|---|
| Committed suicide | Died by suicide |
| Failed suicide/unsuccessful attempt | Attempted suicide/suicide attempt |
| Successful or completed suicide | Died as the result of a self-inflicted injury |
| Chose to kill themselves | Took their own life |
| Threatened | Disclosed |
You don’t need to know all the answers or be an expert to talk to your child about mental health. Start having conversations about mental health and know that there are resources available to help your child if they need.